REALITY CHECK
A visit with an old friend brings humor
by Coby LaRue
Ideas are more valuable than words, I thought to myself as I started
to sit down here at the computer.
It's one of those weeks where it appears I am facing a shortage of
both. Well, maybe I'm more short of ideas than words.
I was once told that the most effective writers just sit down and
write, sorting out the gems from the garbage. In the newspaper
business, there's little time to spend sorting. I usually just try to
report on something that's happened to me, but for the past few
weeks, life has been fairly mundane. However, I recently visited an
old acquaintance that I hadn't seen in several years and he's always
entertaining. He never ceases to amaze me with his observations on
life, especially the comical nature of some of his insights. Since
they aren't made in the form of jokes, the really entertaining part
is that he is usually serious when he's at his best.
He says he grew up on "pone bread and water gravy" in the mountains
of West Virginia. He tells me that he worked in the mines as a
youngster, crawling through shafts that were only a couple feet high.
He later was determined to be disabled, likely after someone with a
background in psychiatry had an opportunity to hear him talk for a
few minutes.
I met him some 20 years ago, living in a trailer park and working at
a rock quarry. Even then, he had obvious difficulties in coping with
reality and the world around him, but an uncanny knack for survival
and a kind of country wit that always finds a way.
He helps me do simple things on occasion, like picking up a vehicle
or driving a car somewhere if the need arises. He's honest in as much
as he won't steal, but in the fact that he is not entirely dependable.
I usually try to gauge the likelihood of him actually showing up by
his reaction when I ask him to do something.
For instance, I've been inviting him to come to my church for the
past three years and he's never turned me down once. However, he has
yet to darken the doors of the church.
I've asked him to come by and help me move some stuff and ended up
waiting for him to call me back. He just doesn't answer the phone if
he doesn't want to do it that day, even if he's already said he
would. He always tells me he's in need of money to help make ends
meet, but he doesn't seem in much of a hurry to earn it. When he
calls me to tell me he can't do it, it's usually late that evening or
a day or two later.
I've learned that it is best to just go by and get him on a whim if I
need something. If he's home, he's more inclined to be reliable if I
talk to him and take him with me immediately. I suppose he doesn't
like to think about it too long.
For the most part, he spends his time watching television, watching
traffic and driving to town to talk with and watch the people. Since
he doesn't work, he doesn't 'do' nearly as much as he watches. I
think his main physical activity is mowing his lawn, which he does
with a little riding mower with handlebars like a bicycle.
Since he is a large man, it sort of is reminiscent of the proverbial
"gorilla on a go-cart." Watching him ride around on the little mower
while chewing tobacco and simultaneously smoke cigarettes has often
been filed in my mind under 'odd sights.'
However, this time of year he isn't doing much mowing. Mostly
television watching.
"I was watching TV last night and I saw that fellow who's always
advertising that free money," he told me. "I got to thinking about
it. If he can get all that free money from the government, why is he
on TV trying to sell books?"
I inadvertently laughed while he was telling the story. He then
informed me that he tried to call and talk with the fellow, but they
hung up on him when he dialed the number.
This story very much illustrates the fellow's personality. He has a
sort of sense that's interesting and refreshing, but lacks several
other kinds of sense that most of us might consider more common.
He told me that he had quit smoking.
"That's great," I told him.
"Yeah, I was up to two or three packs a day and two pokes of chew,"
he said. "It was costing me dear."
A few minutes later, he told me he'd only smoked four cigarettes in
the last two weeks. A few minutes after that, he called out to his
roommate, "Will you light a cigarette so I can have a puff or two off
of it?"
I had to laugh again, but this time he was out of the room. He came
back a minute later, with an aura of smoke surrounding him like an
imaginary scent cloud and an air of satisfaction on his face.
For some reason, those of us who have smoked before now know that
smell and feeling and recognize the addiction in a way those who have
never smoked can't understand.
I think my former habit has made me much more sensitive to smoke and
its odors than I otherwise would have been. While they say former
smokers are the worst, I can't knock anyone. I had to quit more times
than I'm willing to admit before it ever really 'stuck' for me.
With all the talk about secondhand smoke, I always tell people I'm
lucky they hadn't figured out that it was bad for you when I was a
kid. Otherwise, I wouldn't have survived, since I grew up in a house
with two full-time smokers and a coal stove for heat-and that was
before grandma came to visit. She was constantly lighting cigarettes
and leaving them burning all over the house. She had half a 'Bill
Clinton' habit-she never inhaled, but she sure did seem to enjoy it.
In fact, nearly everyone I knew before the age of five smoked
cigarettes. I think even the dog smoked. Or did he chew tobacco?
Either way, I don't think anyone did both, other than old West Virginia.
Anyway, after I had time to digest his first tale, he then told me
that he wanted to stop by the store for something important. When I
stopped, I figured he might be buying cigarettes or chewing tobacco.
He returned with a lottery ticket. "Here's a winner," he said.
"What are you going to do if you win?" I asked him almost pointlessly.
"I'm going to buy a plane full of peanut butter and jelly," he replied.
That led me to ask the obvious next question, "Why?"
He replied, straight-faced, "Well, I've seen them African kids on TV
there that's starving, but on them shows they only have beans and
rice. Something must be going on there. If everyone in the world gave
a dollar, don't you figure they could take them kids some peanut
butter and jelly?"
"Where do you reckon they'd get light bread?" I asked.
"I hadn't thought of that," he admitted.
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